Around the Internet, one will see a lot of incredulity expressed at that the idea that because an individual loosely used a gendered insult, homophobic slur, or otherwise degrading language only one time and as a joke that it means they are apparently innocent and not accountable or culpable for using that language and that people who dislike seeing such language in a public forum just need to learn to loosen up or back off. Particularly, it seems that these people take offense at the idea that when told that their words further maintain subordinative and oppressive mindsets, they find it ridiculous that they, innocent and anonymous Internet blogger simply seeking a good and relaxing time, can be accused of furthering such things.
So, the question is, are they? It’s a yes and no response, but well, mostly yes.
are you consciously trying to further ignorant social scripts? Probably not, at least in my experience I don’t think I have encountered anyone who is intentionally and actively hateful. But a major issue today is that people are unwillingly to connect their own actions to the larger social problem when in fact there substantially is one.
So ok, you called a woman (jokingly!) a skank in a public fandom tag. You’re flabbergasted that women took you to task for it and you backfire by accusing people of being feminazis or whatever horribly degrading terminology or behavior you employ to pretend like it’s the offended party with the problem and not your own language and actions. But the truth is, dear blogger, that you are the problem.
Sure, it’s just a word, a word used once. Should people be up in arms about it? I mean, you’re not out on the streets condemning women, you’re not a part of a movement that actively tries to shame women. You’re just a blogger.
But here is the world I like to imagine—a world where everyone, every individual or any political party, religion, whatever—just stops using casual hate language. What if that just vanished one day? All the average people who just live their lives humbly and relatively openly, what if they just stopped? Would equality be won for all? Not really and probably not, but it sure would mean that there was no micro level basis for a macro level problem, and sometimes that’s what we need. We need to eradicate a problem from the ground up, not only just the top down. It’s a two way street we’re working with. You implying that you’re just one person and your words don’t matter is the equivalent of the old idea that if everyone who voted said ‘I don’t have to vote, I mean I’m just one person’ then we would have no voting body.
I firmly believe in attacking systems of oppression before I attack people who are just as lost in the system I am. But for the love of god, when someone just asks you to stop using certain words or doing certain offensive things, just stop. It makes the problem a lot easier.
my mum was laughing hysterically when I woke up this morning and I went to see what she was laughing at and
How many Burberry coats does Michelle Dockery own?
BTW that lady on the left is Downton Abbey publicist Victoria Brooks. And apparently she also paints Michelle’s nails.
Michelle Fairley, Sophie Turner and Maisie Williams, LA Times
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